Comments on: Family drama! Should my Dad sell the property behind Grandma’s back?! What would YOU do?

By: ndgbill

ndgbill — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 08:52:42 +0000

Both the questioner and the responders manifest the general moral and ethical bankrupcy of our monumentally hypocritical CHRISTIAN society.

From the data given,it is absolutely legally un-equivicable that the grandmother can live or have access to this land as long as she lives period.

If there was such a binding aggreement made between your father and grandmother made AFTER HE HAD PAYED THE BACK TAXES ,then your father knew EXACTLY not only the legal but moral obligation he had created.

Some of the inane responders have gone on about the grandmother having no legal rights because she/they did not pay the land taxes BUT that is totally irrelevant as the contract guaranteeing the grandmother excess to the land WAS MADE AFTER THE TAXES WERE PAID AND THE FATHER KNEW EXACTLY THE NATURE OF THE GUARANTEE HE GAVE THE GRANDMOTHER IN EXCHANGE FOR THE LAND .

The fact that the grandmother may be an abused / deluded wife etc etc etc etc is TOTALLY irrelevant to her legal contractual right to have access to the land.the fact that she may be un-able to live on the land DOES NOT IN ANY MANNER ABROGATE HER RIGHT TO LIVE ON THE LAND AND HAVE ACCESS TO IT WHETHER OR NOT SHE CHOOSES TO EXCERCIZE HER LEGAL RIGHTS OR NOT !!!!

Additionally ,the fact that the grandmother at some point divorced does not terminate her legal rights under the agreement for such agreements are always made on an individual bases eventhough the agreement itself is done for one or many.

On the moral/ethical issue,the same conclusion must be drawn in favour of the grandmother .

From the little details given,one could “legalize” the selling of the land by going through the legal process of declaring the grandmother incompetent and then having another named individual act in the grandmother’s interests which could see the land being sold both in a legal and moral manner .

What we have here is a too normal situation where morality and ethics are either thrown overboard or a pathetic attempt at justifying illegal/immoral behaviors is made all to get a person’s hands on something of value.

Pathetic.

By: carole

carole — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 01:21:40 +0000

Most definitely he should sell it behind her back.

I think she will always have an irrational reaction to what happens with that property and so a reasonable and responsible person needs to step up to the plate and handle it.

By: northernlamb

northernlamb — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 07:54:11 +0000

An institution so professionals can care for her sounds like good idea to collect social security thought she did not.
For her sounds like good idea to collect social security thought she has absolutely no say in an institution so professionals can care for her sounds like good idea to sell.
For her sounds like good idea to sell the property and get away from lot.
An institution so professionals can care for her sounds like good idea to be in an institution.
An institution so professionals can care for her sounds like good idea.

By: lucidwillow

lucidwillow — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 09:16:44 +0000

Your father has every right to sell the land. Grandma needs to deal with it, she lost her rights to the land over 20 yrs ago by not paying the legal taxes and your dad stepped up for them and allowed them to stay. It’s done and now in the past.

By: tjnstlouismo

tjnstlouismo — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 05:28:39 +0000

So don’t discuss it. Its your dad’s property and he should do what he wants. He doesn’t need her permission.

By: janis616

janis616 — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 08:22:27 +0000

My opinion and it until she dies.
For the rest of her life which means he cant sell it until.
For the rest of her life which means he agreed to for.
The rest of her life which means he cant sell it until she dies.